A few dozen friends down the drain. Yes, I unfriended quite a few people. We are talking Facebook here obviously. It's not that I don't like these people. But there was no point. When there's no social interaction, why not get rid of the clutter on your wall? Or when people merely use Facebook to turn it in into one giant digital billboard, by constantly clicking on commercial pages, hoping to win a weekend in the country of a year's supply of dog food? Away with them.
And then there are those friends, who always talk about themselves, their work related problems, their health and their relations. Depleting your emotional reserves, parasatizing on your lack of assertiveness, because you do not want to hurt their feelings. But they fail to see you as a system of emotional needs and challenges who needs to be listened to as well. Those friends are gone.
Finally, we come to category three. The friends you can communicate with, who do show interest and sympathy, but only just as long as you are interesting to them. Because you are merely an ornament on the christmas tree of their social life. They feast on their extensive social network of presumed friends, it is what they think that gives them their status, it is how they want to be seen. But when something shinier and new comes along, you move to a lower branch, until it is just politeness that makes 'm look at you. And while they claim that social media are a lower form of interaction, they do not even show the smallest token of sincere interest – not even there where it would not cost them any sacrifice of their valuable social time.
You only need a few, very few, real good friends. I know people on social media that I have never seen, that show more interest in me, then all the people above combined. So, why bother to maintain all those relations face to face, when so many are shallow and meaningless?
I am a rock, I'm an island. It's one of Simon and Garfunkel's greatest songs. Just Google the lyrics, and you see what I mean. Cynic? Maybe. Sad? Why would that be? Just imagine. Wouldn't it be great to be emotionally self sufficient?